Out of Pain Comes Strength
When something painful or difficult occurs in our life, it often comes out of nowhere. We don't expect it or we're not prepared for how to deal with it. The loss of my brother when I was younger and the loss of my son Sammy a couple years ago were both very much like that - unexpected and hard to accept. It's almost impossible to see how you'll ever be happy again when you're immersed in a period of loss, immense stress, or uncertainty. But I'm living proof you can have failed marriages, get fired a dozen times, live off ramen noodles to scrape by with your newborn son, tragically lose several people you deeply love...and manage to feel abundantly blessed and happy today. I'm here to tell you whatever pain you're enduring or have yet to endure, it will not last....
I think we've all scraped our knees, banged up our elbows, broken a bone or two or three. We've all endured physical trauma at some point, probably during our adventures in childhood for many of us. The wound hurts, and some of us have the evidence in scars to prove how badly it hurt! Have you ever noticed when a wound heals, the skin that forms the scar seems tougher than the skin before it? That's kind of the same thing that happens when we have emotional hurts. We have to endure the initial pain, give it time to heal, and then we'll eventually be stronger for it.
It may take a little longer to get over emotional pain, but when you choose not to be defeated and nurse your emotional wounds with help from caring people around you, you will overcome your obstacle, your pain, your struggle and be armed with the knowledge and empathy to help and heal others around you when it's their turn to go through the muck of life.
Whatever you are going through today, I want you to know you are not alone. Others have gone before you and will go after you in a similar, if not same situation. People are willing to help and support you, but you have to be willing to ask for it. Look for emotional support and reach out for help to heal the hurts in your life. And one day, after your wounds have healed, and someone reaches out to you for help, you may find yourself thanking God for your own experiences - good and bad - and giving you the wisdom to help this person find their peace again. Something to think about today...
Perfect Potluck Hash Brown Casserole
1-2 pound bag hash browns, thawed
1 onion, chopped to taste
1 can cream of chicken soup, undiluted
8-12 ounces sour cream
2 cups cheddar cheese, shredded
1/2 cup butter, melted
2 cups corn flakes, crushed
Mix hash browns, onion, soup, sour cream, and cheese. Mix corn flakes and butter, toast in fry pan. Sprinkle on top of potatoes the last 15 minutes of baking. Bake for 1 hour at 350 degrees. Enjoy!
What Listeners Look Forward to this Spring
Can't wait to plant my flower garden and open all my windows. Debbie
The simple goodness and joy of wearing flip flops. Denise
Concerts in the park. Joanne
Sitting on my front deck in the morning with my cup of coffee, listening to and watching the birds around the feeders. Louisa
The Easter egg hunt in my backyard for my girls. Rebecca
Planting tomatoes and squash. Lying in the swimming pool on a raft. Grilling hamburgers. Sitting outside at night! Valerie
Baseball season! Christopher
I'm looking forward to the spring thunderstorms! I love the sound of thunder. Sarah
Going trail riding with my cousin and letting our horses swim in the pond. Skye-Larie
Playing in the dirt! Camping! Bonfires! Brandylee
I'm looking forward to riding my motorcycle. Daren
Flowers blooming and the gorgeous dogwood trees! Martha
My outdoor wedding! Denise
Top down, hitting the trails with the Jeep and bike. Butch
Watching my grandbabies ride their new bikes I bought them for Christmas. Jennifer
Frozen Thin Mints Girl Scout Cookies and a lawn chair in the back yard. Gwen
Snorkeling and scalloping in Florida. Spring waters that are ice cold on a hot summer day. Kimberly
Warmer weather and NO SNOW!!! Gina
Delilah Dilemma of the Week
I have a wonderful mother who is the best. She has always done everything and anything to help people. But she has a husband now who mistreats her all the time. I guess I need to know when step-sons can step in and say something. Should I talk to my mom alone? Should I push back a little bit every time I hear something? I really don't think I'm mistaking what's going on. I want my mother to be happy and safe. Shawn
I wish I knew how old you were because that changes things, but certainly talk to your mother. If you are old enough to recognize what's going on, you must talk to your mother. Talk to others who lover her like grandparents, your siblings if you have them...keep talking to the people in your mom's life and build a support team for her. If your mom is being verbally abused and mentally abused, then she probably doesn't feel she has the power to get away from this. But if you can help build a support system around her, then perhaps someone can get thru to her. And tell your mama every day that you love her and you are there for her and that she deserves to be happy and have a good life - keep that communication open with her as much and as often as possible. God bless you and your mom. Delilah
Play the Delilah Game Show
You don't just get the title "Queen of Sappy Love Songs" for nothing. It's a lot of hard work choosing just the right songs for each story and dedication that airs on my show. But after 30 years, I've become a pretty expert song picker-outer. By now, some of you are pretty good understudies, and a few of my loyal listeners even made a game out of it:
We just wanted to send you an e-mail to tell you about a little game we've created. On Wednesday nights we carpool to bowling. The ride takes about 30 minutes. We throw the balls down the lane and have a few laughs at the alley. But the real competition begins on the way home from the alley - we turn on your show and play a little game. When callers ask you to pick out a song for them we try to pick the song you are going to play for them. After two years of playing the Delilah Game Show we finally had our first winner! The song "I Hope You Dance." Thanks for the good times! We'll be out there guessing. Erin, Sarah, Krista, and Shelly
I hope you're tuning into my show, if for nothing else but to humor yourself with song choice predictions. But you can also have some fun by calling in with your friends and family too. Let's pick a song for your situation together! My number is 1-888-633-5452 or you can email me at D@Delilah.com today.
Till we meet over the airwaves...
Requesting the Honor of Your Presence
Tonight when you tune into my show, I want you to do me a favor: Put down your phone. Put down your tablet. Stop texting on your phone. Stop emailing. Stop making notes. Stop fixating your tired eyes on a tiny screen and stop working your tired mind...
Be present in the room with the people around you. Connect heart to heart. Give yourself just a little time to catch up with the people you love. Instead of surfing your phone apps, consider your day, your blessings, make plans with someone, look someone in the eye and have a conversation. Instead of playing a game on a teeny tiny screen, pull out a real board game and ask a real person to play alongside you.
I love the ease of being connected thru smart phones and apps and social media. But when I'm with my family; when we sit down for dinner, when it's time to talk or when it's time to do homework, all mobile devices must be put away. And what a refreshing experience it is to hear real sentences coming out of their mouths versus reading shorthand over a phone screen! I can dish out a real thumbs up to my kids or plant a real kiss on their cheeks versus sending them an emoticon image.
If I can encourage you to do one thing tonight, possibly an experiment for the month of March, it would be to put down your devices, relax, connect and be present during the evening hours. You work hard enough during the day; give those hard-working hands and eyes a rest, will ya? Just a thought...
A Recipe for Easy, Cheesy Comfort
Making a tuna melt, in my opinion, is one of the easiest ways to satisfy a comfort-food craving. It's all that gooey, cheesy goodness not-so-neatly packed into a hand-held sandwich. It's like seafood's answer to the meatball sub. And if you are suddenly craving one or the other now that I've mentioned it, I can at least provide you with a no-fail, delicious recipe for the tuna melt. This one is open-faced, so you can even use a fork if you're feeling particularly neat today...
Open-Faced Tuna Melt
Can of tuna
Dill pickle, diced
Red onion, diced
Salt and pepper, to taste
Hot sauce, to taste
Sourdough wheat bread
Garlic salt, dash
American cheese slices
Provolone cheese slices
Parmesan cheese, shredded
Preheat oven to 350 degrees and line a cookie sheet with non-stick foil.
Drain tuna. In a bowl, combine tuna, mayo,(enough to coat the tuna mixture), pickle, onion and seasonings to taste.
Butter one side of the bread and sprinkle with garlic salt. Place bread, buttered side down, on cookie sheet. Top bread with American cheese followed by a generous portion of the tuna mixture, coating the surface of the bread and cheese. Top tuna mixture with Parmesan and Provolone cheese and bake until the bread is toasted and the tuna and cheese are warm and bubbly. Enjoy!
Making the Case for Heaven
After my son Sammy died a couple years ago, a listener recommended a book called Heaven is for Real written by Todd Burpo. It's a true story about his young son who emerges from a life-saving surgery and recounts all of the amazing experiences he has in heaven during his operation. The boy, Colton, shares impossible-to-know details about relatives he met in heaven who came before his existence and much more evidence that supports the case for heaven.
It didn't take long to get pulled in to this well-written account of Colton's experience in heaven. His story landed in my lap at such a critical time in my life and helped me cope with my son's loss, giving me a peek into the indescribable joy he must be experiencing in his afterlife. Knowing how hard Sammy's life had been as an orphan scraping by to survive in Africa, it is truly a gift to think of him in a perfect state with perfect peace.
Everyone who has the hope of heaven or has lost a loved one should read Heaven is for Real. It is a source of peace and I know it will help millions of other people grieving for family and friends, and inspire those who may be on a walk of faith. You can find out all about the book and where to get a copy on Delilah.com. It is my featured book for March. You can also go LIKE the book's Facebook page and share it with your friends. I promise once you have it in front of you, you'll have a hard time putting it down.
Ready, Set, Spring Forth and Swap Out
Later this month we will spring into a new season and hopefully we can pack away those big, bulky winter coats we've been hiding under for months. With that, it's time to start anew and think about a spring clean for your closet. Pack away items you won't need for a few months, and in the process, set aside the clothes, shoes and accessories you haven't worn for a few years and determine it's finally time to give them up. Then call up some friends and organize a Friday Night Girls clothing swap! If you're really going to clean house, you can even include kids' clothes and toys in this swap meet-up as well.
Bring all the clothes and accessories together in one house and hang them, drape them, display them so they can be seen. You can pop little stickers with sizing info on the front to make it easier to "shop" sizes. You gals can take turns by drawing numbers out of a hat to see who goes first, or just shop together all at once. Put out some chocolate, put on my radio station and make it a fun event! Whatever is unclaimed at the end, plan to donate it to a women's shelter.
Share your great ideas for spring cleaning and spring fun with me, or if you simply want to shout out to your favorite Friday Nite Girls, call me at 1-888-633-5452.
Have a merry month of March!